Question to all Me and my wife purchased a harness and two dildo's this weekend and i was pegged for the first time. She loved doing it however it didn't get her to orgasm. Also, she wanted to be able to suck my dick while playing with my ass, and the topic of threesomes came up. MFM bisexual threesomes to be exact. We are both considering the idea, but we have a problem. We want the freedome of a one-timer, but the safety of someone we trust. We can't trust someone we don't know, but if we get someone we know, we don't want the relationship to get weird. I want thought from people who have participated in threesomes and how the marriage changes. We aren't sure it is worth the risk.

Don't do it. I, personally, enjoy it and so does my partner. However, I can honestly say if you are both this unsure... it's not worth the risk. Keep it in the 'fantasy' realm for now. Who knows? Maybe one day you'll both be comfortable with it.

I agree w/ Red the problem is one many run into. You can't trust someone you don't know, but your worried it will get weird w/ them afterwards. I've seen the weird part happen. How do you still hang out and have beers when you have sucked his dick and he has fucked your wife. I had a friend who did that with a couple he knew, he was never friends w/ them again. Something went wrong for the couple afterwards and they couldn't be friends w/ him anymore. You and you SO have to work past all that long before you try this. Otherwise it just won't work. Instead of looking a friend, you could loose your SO too. Spend lots of time discussing before hand be sure you are both on the same page first. Then see if the right person comes along.

My Advice would be to talk this senario out as much as possible before you even start looking for a 3rd... Since there seems to be some hesitancy. Adress all of your fears, all of your excitement and the current state of your relationship. Weigh them all against each other and decide. As far as finding the 3rd. Finding someone that you know and trust without making it weird could be hard i guess. Getting weird is a risk in any situation. My thoughts would be find a 3rd that is looking for the same, and take the time to get to know them before getting intimate.

We have completely ruled out another woman. my wife is very jealous of other women, simply because i have been around more than she was before we ot married. but the prospect of another man was never seriously considered until now.

I am no, nor have I ever been, a jealous person it actually pisses my wife off, that i don't get jealous. I know she is coming home to me no matter who hits on her. Also, She never had an orgasm until me so, she doesn't want another dick in her. even if she did have another dick in her i wouldn't mind. i like seeing her get off. she on the other hand is very possesive. she gets jealous if i start jacking off. lol.

Just wait Until you both know it something you want to try and then be ready to act when opportunity strikes.

this is the classic threeway conundrum There is no right answer. If you seriously do not have a friend with which this wouldn't get weird (you're hardly alone) then you're left looking for a stranger and therein lie the trust questions. Personally, I'd exhaust all the friend options before just striking out on your own to look for a stranger. As for the relationship with your SO, that's simple communication. If you both discuss it beforehand and treat it as a 'grand experiment', then there shouldn't be any long term ramifications. Hopefully.

I dunno I am always the F joining a M/F. I think the rules are a little different for picking a random guy to bring home rather than a random girl. I do know that one rule remains constant - you are always within you rights to say "no thank you" to a second encounter with whomever you do pick up.

There was a lot of first time ass fucking this weekend.

For the record, It wasn't the first time for my ass. Just the first time for the strap-on. Lets just say it was very well received.

Get a stranger Meet someone, get to know them a little and go to a motel, dont bring them to your home, until you really know them well. Or go to theirs.

Doesn't sound like you're ready to consider the feelings of a third person when you've already got so many concerns between the two of you. Therefore, I'd suggest you simply enjoy her pegging your ass, then she can leave the toy in your ass for you to play with while she moves to the front so she can suck you off while you fuck yourself. Personally, I've had MFF threesomes with friends and nothing got *weird* because we talked about expectations, limitations, etc. before/during/after the threesomes. If you don't want things to get weird, then you've gotta *talk* about that with the friend. No risk, no reward. If you're not sure the rewards are worth the risks, then you're just not ready for either the risks or the rewards.