Ok, So next week is Christmas... Anyone going to have a huge Christmas? Any good plans? This year is hard for me. I was supposed to be nowhere near here. Last year this time I was still unhappily married (very unhappily for many years prior to that as well)and the divorce papers were about to be filed. I have yes, moved to where my mom and her husband is, but have no desire to be around people (of course there is no escaping) but then again I know it is not best for me. The love of my life I will only get to see via video, and I miss her tremendously. I just want to crawl into bed, and forget the day is even happening. At least I have Harvey, who will keep me going. My old traditions will be just that, and who knows what new ones I will end up starting. Then in a few short days after Christmas, my "holding" birthday is arriving, and yet again, my love will not be here. So, I guess I just wanted to hear some happy Christmas thoughts, and to see that someone out there is getting the magical Christmas they want and deserve.

i have the same situation as you for these holidays..the LOML is away to the east coast to attend to some family things...i am on the west coast she's on the east coast...this will be a first for us after 7 years... do you mind if i sit next to you to read on how everyone will celebrate theirs???

Please join me... want a tissue? Chocolates...a strong beverage?

just stay close and hold my hand... feeling lonely just need some company that understands where i'm coming from.... misery loves company...i'll get over it .... what about you..do you need anything?

A shoulder and a friend is good for me. Thanks...and I will be here...

Beer!!!!!!

Most certainly.... ok, my big ole bag (dont do purses!) is saving your spot...

but wait! Alone does not have to equal lonely! Admittedly I am mostly a scrooge, so take this all with a grain of salt. I prefer to be alone on Christmas! No pressure to get presents for that deadline. No traveling in horrid weather, crowded planes or traffic jams. No drunken relatives. No worrying that I didn't get just the right gift, something didn't fit or that someone got me something and I didn't get them anything. No pressure at all. Last year I treated myself to a new art set of pastels and a pad and got creative, stocked up on some of my favorite foods, and had a long walk with the pooches. It was wonderful.

I agree alone doesnt have to be lonely, but it is this year.

Why not go to the movies? The theater may be packed, but you don't have to socialize with anyone there and there's nothing like seeing something on a big screen to take you away from your own thoughts for a while. Holidays are overrated anyway.

I really want to avoid all people in general this year I think...bed, quiet, and mucho alchohol sound great to me!

How about a nice gay friendly Church and a traditional candle light service. You can meet new people, or just be friendly and obscure. Too much alcohol is not good when you are truly sad.