1st time anal my boyfriend wants to try anal sex, I'm not to hip on the idea, but his bierthday is coming up and I wanted to surprise him. Any girls out there with anal advice? Did you like it?

All I can say is do it because YOU want to Or he'll only be gettin it once a year on his birthday if that. It can be VERY pleasurable for the receiver, have him use his finger and/or tongue on the outside first, slowly come inside with lots of lube. And play with his ass as well, so he knows what it feels like. You can then use dildos made for the ass that are small, and work up to the size of your bfs cock.

Hi there. Pleased to meet you. The forum is a bit slow right now--most people are on during business hours. But a good resource is the "search kink and bdsm" link at the top of this page. Anal sex and advice on it is an often discussed topic. :) Pull up what other people have talked about. To answer your question--do I like it? Yes, I do most of the time. But not all the time. When we try it and it isn't comfortable for whatever reason, we stop and go do something else for a while. Things I do to make it more comfortable and pleasureable for me: --Only do this if you desire it. Pussies, with some lube, can take a fucking even if you're not into it. The ass is a more sensitive creature and will protest loudly when forced. --Before anyone else does stuff to my ass, I played with it a bunch first. I like nitrile gloves, lots of lube, and a bevy of towels. Take it really really slow; don't ever 'force' anything into the ass. That is ouchy and not fun. 'Bear down' like you're taking a crap; this opens up the ass muscles more easily. Explore the feeling of a finger not moving for a long while. Try some slow, small movements. Maybe work up to a small butt plug. --It has taken me months of self play before being able to take a penis comfortably. Some people don't need as much prep, but I did. --watch my diet a few days before and the day of the anal spelunking. I don't know if other people get the same reaction, but if I have spicy food, too much caffiene or dairy (mild lactose intolerance), it is uncomfortable and I don't want to play. --=Have lots of normal sex foreplay and oregasms before attempting anal. It is more fun and easier that way.

Cheerful offers some good advice Lots of it!! Be aware, that it is very possible that it won't just magiy work. And it could possibly be painful. It took quite some time for it to not be painful for me. The more foreplay you have had, the better off you will be, too. While Cheerful said to bear down, I found that if I totally relax, it will help.

this has been great thanks for your quick responses... I think I'm ready to try out anal now... As you do it does it become easier?

Sometimes yes, sometimes no it all depends on the situation. There have been nights in the past that anal cannot happen, as it hurts too much. It all depends on your body, and the size of whatever is going into your ass.

Ditto.

Forgot to say hi! How are you doing? Fun planned for the weekend?

Kind of. we're going to see the obt nutcracker production on sat. sweetie knows that I love the way ballenchine (sp?) arranges. Probably very little kinky play this weekend--sweetie is starting to feel under the weather. :( Monday I might go to the rcdc meeting. They are having a kinky auction with proceeds going to a non-profit. It is not a party, just a social. Although sometimes they do seminars/demos.

It stands for Rose City Discussion Club. There is a web site if you want to get more info. yeah, I'm going to limit myself to how much money I bring and that is it! Winter time seems to bring out more colds and flus. Sigh. Between the too dry indoor air, and the higher people interaction, I shouldn't wonder.

Yeah . . . and lots of just gross sharing . . . ewww I teach my to sneeze into their elbows so that they aren't sneezing onto their hands . . .same with coughs . . I like to share, but come on no people!! LMAO! I will look up their site.

Oh yeah--I forgot to add that it is easier to control comfort levels if you're the one backing on to the penis at your speed, versus the boy trying to push forward.

And another add . . . Different positions cause different feelings. Sounds stupid, I know (like duh) but . . . sometimes we could do it in one position, but not in another. So try different positions too.

I wonder how many feedbacks would it take to convience that we need a kink and bdsm FAQ like the poly forum, and a "splash page" with the no personal ads rule and "how does this forum work?" I think I might want to start a movement next week!! :)

Now there would be a good idea!! bravo I say, bravo!! *insert golf clap*