so I have a ? ok, first, I'm new here... give me a couple secs. to figure out how this works...

stiffy

what am I? so I already know that I am into pain... bondage, etc. One of my favorite things in a sexual encounter is to be spanked... like bottom blistering red w/a belt or paddle, balls twisted and pinched, etc But watching the video's of women getting spanked, etc makes me rock hard. So am I a dom or a sub? Can a person be both? With the same partner? OR should I seek two partners?

Why label yourself? No need to. You can be a switch if you want to, and you can switch it up with just one person if they want to, as well. You sound like a kinkster to me. Any other label is up to you, although I see no need for one unless it makes you feel better in some way.

Might help him To find relationships that let him explore both sides. Then he may understand it all better.

@ crippled who wants to try bdsm from the top

No reason you have to be dom or sub You can have relashionshps that explore both.

Good questions. Yes, a person can be both Dominant and submissive. They're ed a switch. You can be both with the same partner. They would need a switch as well for it to work successfully. Or you can go with the 2 partners thing. One to be Dominant over you, and the other to be submissive to you.

you're a fucking pervert welcome to perv land

@ justjavi thanx :}

So... any advice on finding a sub? I mean, I'm not really connected in this area... Are there really that many women who are into this?

google munch + BDSM + your city a munch is an informal gathering of local kinky folk. Give you an opportunity to network with local like minded people.

See, I'm very bold with the advice just a bit timid about taking it, lol. I've been trying to work up the nerve to go to a munch myself. :P

Let's go Why don't we commit to go to the same one... then we'll at least have a reason to overcome our fear...

Random question for you. How do you know the two of you even live remotely near one another?

An excellent question indeed Oh, and you have great breasts by the way :D

Why, thank you. :)

mind if I email you?

Not at all, because you asked so nicely. :)