New to the forum w/ a ? on shy husband Hello, new to the forum and thought you might help with my problem. I like to be ordered in the bedroom more often than not. My husband, however, tends to be the laid back one. He always wants me to be the aggressor. I just REALLY REALLY need to be dominated every once in a while. How do I get him to start taking control? I don't want him to feel that I'm not happy with our sex life, but I need him to know it is important to me for him to take total control.

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