should I ?? Me and my wife have been talking about way's to spice up our love life. She mentions she would like to go out somewhere with me for some casual drinks. She thinks it would be fun and erotic if another guy cut in on our date night and take over the conversation and eventually the evening with some flirting or dancing while I watch and drink by myself. I think... hmmmm.... I am ok with that,, quite an elaborate scheem in fact. At the end of the evening, she say's she comes back to me and we go home and complete the evening. Doesn't sound bad - what could go wrong?? What if she has more fun with the lucky guy? Will it change things in our relationship? Will her image of me take a hit? thanks

Anytime you add another person to the mix, you're risking your relationship. Which might be part of the allure. I've done this with many women and each of them handle the situation in their own way. Some are completely comfortable with it, while others only thing they will be. Then the reality sets in and the trouble begins. IMO women can be much more emotion about this sort of thing than most men.

Sounds like a farily safe fantasy But even the safest has some level of risk - you never know how each of you will react until it happens. I recommend lots of communication before hand, with clear limits set. Just as important is clear communications after.

Perhaps take it a little slower, if you are not comfortable with this? Do something to change your appearance, and "meet" her at a bar as if you were strangers...it's a small step.

That's definately the way to start

Communicate your concerns with each other before If you are a jealous person and will ravage her to make her "yours". She may be into that. Or she may not like it if you are jealous. My wife used to hate it because I am not a jealous person. But we worked through it and still have little scenarios every once in a while. I love them.

I do get jealous, but I like it when it comes to sexual energy being involved. She does not like anything planned out,, likes spontaneous and that makes it hard. I want her to feel young and rejuvenated.. she definitely wants to make me jealous - she loves that,, must be a woman thing...

she just wants the extra attention from me I think she thinks it's cool when I am sitting there with such a "hard-on" for her,, How could a guy not be going crazy if she has all her focus on another guy?? would make any guy jealous but what does jealousy really mean?

In this case I would probably cum in my pants!! jealousy lol

toss the flip at her....she what she says about you dancing with another woman?

men don't have that kinda power over a woman... logistiy it should work that way,, but it just doesn't..

Did you just say men don't have that kind of power over women? *tisk-tisk